Trauma is not what is happening to us, but instead it is the effect of what have left within us.
It is not the event when the pain was created that makes trauma, but instead it is the emotion and feelings that was left behind after that specific painful experience that makes problem of trauma. This is the reason why most of the medical study of trauma is called this case as “Post Trauma and Stress Disorder (PTSD)”
Trauma is being created when a pure soul must face terrifying truth of phenomena without knowing the way out or single solution of the problem he face. Thus, mostly the tragedy that create the effect of trauma is being created when a human child live in between age 0 – 25 years old.
During this age, a human child is still learning and trying to figure out their purpose of life. And yet, when this idea is being interfere with any idea of morality, culture or religion, then the wisdom and knowledge has become impure and toxic. When a human child is learning about their life, they must be provided a space of freedom to express their desire and will. In order for them to know themselves and their goal in life.
The golden age of growth always turn every 7 years of a human life. A human child will learn a significant knowledge and wisdom they will understand in every turning 7 years. On the first turning, a human child learn about the first stage of safety. In this level they must understand the meaning and the feeling of being saved and secure. This will help them to grow to a further exploration.
From age 1 up to age 7 years of a human child, the care taker must provide a safe, secure environment where a child can express their feeling without restriction nor limitation. They might need guidance, however the guidance must be given in a way that they can understand or they can learn to understand, not being forced.
If restriction happen during this age, the first stage of trauma is being create: which is the trauma of security. The child will grow older without knowing what security means. And they must at all time, longer time, finding out for themselves “what does it mean to be saved and secured?” This is as same as living life in nightmare, where we must face our ghost every single time.
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