Emotions VS Feelings

What is the different between emotions and feelings? Emotions (E-motions) is some kind of fast moved reaction/ immediate feedback to a situation. For example, your lips will say, “Ouch!” when you accidentally hit your finger with a hammer. Or you may shout to a person who accidentally step on your toes. While feelings are hidden down deep in the heart, and it is only sometimes can be felt through a realization and understanding, normally comes up after a deep contemplation or with the help through breathwork. Feelings are very private, while emotions are more common.

“Feelings is the bottom of the ocean, and emotions is the surface part of a wavy tide.”

In my understanding, feelings are built up from emotional experiences or planted by a traumatic situation. A person who has lost their parents or has lost the person they loved so much may experience deep grief and sadness. A child who has experienced childhood abuse may have feelings of deep insecurity and fear. Unfortunately, our behavior are based on these feelings. A child who has experience abusive contact from their parents may become an abusive person in their adulthood, and without realizing it they hurt other people. It is because this child has deep fear, insecurity and anger. A person who has deep grief may become a sad person and feel their life is not worth it and experience sadness, anxiety and worry in their daily basis.

Generally people hurt other people, because they are hurt inside. But, most of us don’t realize this. We have learned to avoid feeling the pain. We have learned not to admit the pain that we have. For many reason, mostly because other will judge us, we hide our pain in a sacred place. We are so afraid if other people will find out about our pain. We feel embarrassed having pain, and feel shame if other find out.

Take sadness for example, have you felt sadness before? Do you have sadness? How does it feel? Can you describe it?

Note: On our breathing practice, we categorize emotions as a form of distraction. It is similar to physical/ emotional sensations.

 

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Distraction

“With the highest honor to all of my teachers, students and friends. I would like to tell you all that I am not interested in experiencing sensations while doing my practice. I’d rather listen to my breath and let my thinking mind concern about what’s happening on the physical level rather than allowing my thinking mind wonder around and take my concentration away which destroy my practice entirely. I would love to experience the real feelings of lost and gratefulness, the real feeling of guilt and forgiveness, the real feelings of sadness and love.”

Feelings are profound and simple. Understanding feelings allow us to learn how to respect ourselves within what we do. This practice also allowing ourselves to understand that each of our life time is precious, so we can spend our life time to benefit ourselves and those who we love.

Unfortunately, no one teach us earlier how to get in touch with our feelings. Instead, most of the people around us and the society teach us to bury the feelings deep down inside our heart in the place far away to reach out. That we must peel-off layers after layers before we can get to the deepest feelings which reveals who we are.

For those who has never done breathing practice or even for those who have done the practice for a long time will find distraction along the practice. This is normal, because the body automatically refuse to experience the feelings (for many reasons). Imagine when you are threaten by a tiger, your body will automatically freeze and closed up. Same within the breathing practice. The healing journey of being open and vulnerable sometimes can be scary and surprising. The only way to get through is by having an open heart and surrender to receive and let go, allow the heart to take the lead.

Distraction happens when the feelings are almost arrive. It comes on different form of sensations. Distraction can manifest in physical sensations like dry mouth, dry tongue, dry throat, stiff neck, stiff jaw, light headed, arise heat or cold, tingle, itchiness, numbness, tremor, pounding chest, and many more; or emotional sensation like feelings relax, feeling “gone somewhere”, feeling nice, etc. Not only this, the thinking mind is very clever (but the heart mind is far more intelligent). The thinking mind will bring new ideas for life or new ideas about concept, or manifesting is different kind of thoughts that will distract your concentration to your breathing.

“To me it’s really interesting. Sometimes I feel like something is crawling on to my arm, but then when I open my eyes there is nothing on my arm. The body is super intelligent.”

The body struggle so much not to let the feelings happen, because the body knows that it will be painful. The body knows that it will be hurt. The body knows that before the release happen, it has to get through the crisis of profound confusion, painful moments that makes it not wanting to allow the feelings to arise.

Quoting from my good friend, “Just before the release happen my neck was so stiff, the back part of my legs was so painful. It feels like I just finish with a hardcore Ashtanga class. But then, the release happened and I cried so deeply. At that moment the pain is all gone.” – Lilik Manuaba.

When dealing with distraction, it is all about your intention. What do you want from your practice? That is what you will get from your practice.

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Understanding and Expressing the Feelings

Our feelings create who we are, our behavior are based on our feelings towards life. Our words are shaped from our feelings towards the world and people around us. Our view of life is based on our feelings on day-to-day basis, and how we feel about ourselves. Are these not enough reason why we need understand our feelings?

By understanding the feeling of “fear” for example, then we become aware and notice the feeling of insecurity and anxiety towards life is caused by this “fear”. By understanding the feeling of “sadness and grief”, then we become notice and aware about the reason why we become sensitive and feeling hurt for most of the time. By understanding and admitting the feeling of “guilt”, then we understand not to create and project that guilty to other people and not continuously making the same pattern of being the victim.

Remember that law of “attract – manifest – project”? We are all the time projecting our feelings to others, especially our significant others; our husband, wife, parents, children, etc. Thus we attract similar feeling to arise within them and at the end manifesting the feeling that we have expected. However, the feelings we have created are not always good for them, sometimes we project our insecurity or fear to them as well. So, by understanding, admitting and expressing these feelings completely and fully, we don’t need to carry them around anymore.

The feelings that have been expressed allow relieve to happen in the physical state. Thus, the body feels more comfortable and more relax. And, in mental state, helps the mind to become more settle, calm and peaceful.

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The Feelings

“Just like the ocean have the taste of salt. This teaching has only one taste, the taste of freedom.” – Buddha.

Only when we understand our feelings which create range of thoughts. We can have the independence to let this thought arise and pass away. Just like all things, suffering or satisfaction, all things will arise and pass away. When there is a start, there always be an end.

We might be confused of feelings (comes from the center of your heart) and other “feelings” that mostly mentioned on our daily activities. Feeling hungry, feeling tired, feeling sleepy, feeling lazy …. these are different from feelings like: sadness, fear, hatred, envy, ruthlessness, indecisiveness, selfish, greed, panic, insecurity, frustration, embarrassment, guilt; including feelings of love, compassion, joy, self-respect, enlighten, sympathy, caring, wisdom, security, and so on… these are the feelings that we never talked about, and yet never been admitted nor expressed.

We, human as animal have natural instinct, like hunger, or wanting to mate (producing offspring/ children). However have the capabilities to reach out the “higher-state”of understanding feelings. Understanding the “deeper feelings” can helps us view our world as what it is, both create happiness or suffering. These feelings have been brought since the beginning of our birth. Indeed we have tendency to learn one or two specific feelings stronger/ deeper than other feelings (from our parents, or our significant others). Or even some of us have the tendency to learn not to feel anything, or to shut our feelings throughout our lifetime.

The feelings that we meant was feelings are like rage (deep anger), envy, ruthlessness, indecisiveness, judgmental, frustration, resentment, selfishness, self-pity, self-center, shame, fear, shock/ trauma, lonely, panic, confuse, hysteria, insecurity, narrow minded, vanity, sadness, grief; including the encounter feelings of love and appreciation, wisdom, self-respect, joy, self-discrimination, openness, assertiveness, clarity, awareness and understanding, sympathy, compassion, humility, equanimity, contentment, peace of mind, wisdom, security, open-minded, easy going and so on. These are feelings that for some reason within the time of our lives has been incubated inside, and for some reason sometimes we are not allowing ourselves to feel or admit nor express these feelings completely and fully.

Ask yourself, how do you feel now? Do you understand the feelings of those words mentioned above?

Other important note to understand is that feelings are different from emotions. Emotions are the quick feedback/ response on certain situation, while feelings has lied for a long time within a self, down deep in the center of heart. For example: “angry people are angry because they have had anger inside them. And that anger might be caused by them being hurt.”

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The Energetic Healing and Spiritual Act

As spiritual practitioners, we believe there are always an energetic force that takes place in every action in our practice. This energetic force is something we cannot see, nothing to smell nor touch. But it exists within the practice. It is indeed, only work efficiently if we have faith in our healing process.

For us, modern intellect people, we have been depending a lot on our senses in learning about our reality. “We look through a key hole and yet sometime when we have opportunity to widen the key hole in such way we cannot imagine. We refuse to receive the knowledge.” – the Ancient One.

This healing only happen in two ways. Generally happens with a basic form of “Attract – Manifest – Project” nature law. The process is definitely happens through the heart, within the touch of the feelings. We are not talking about any religion here, although concept of religion have the same purpose for the kindness of humanity. Religions make rules for those who needed it, to make their thinking mind a little bit more settle and may introduce discipline for their purpose of a meaningful life. Those who has got through this understanding take the concept of religion into deeper understanding, often called as the learning spirituality. Spirituality is nothing more and nothing less than understanding the feeling itself.

Learning spirituality is effortless. The first step, is to create strong fundamental base by learning to become quiet, both in mental mind and physical body. By being quiet, some feelings might arise. Believe it or not, we work a lot with feelings on our day-to-day life.

Our feelings attracts other similar feelings (from other people), either we realize it or not most of the time we project that feelings to other people, so they become like what we want them to feel. Therefore we manifest the exact situation we expect to happen. This all work very fast, and most of the time happen without us realizing it.

The way that we work on this energetic healing is by aligning with the feelings, and help support to allow the feelings to be expressed and admitted in a saved space. Thus emotional releases allows participants to re-experience trauma or pain. This act helps the body to re-print the understanding that those pains has passed, and now we live in the saved space to gain trust and security within itself.

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The Breath

As many of us seek new avenues to health, longevity, peace and prosperity, we usually overlook the most important thing we can do for ourselves: BREATHING. Most of us live our entire lives paying little or no attention to how we breathe. We have no clue as to the important of proper breathing and how deeply it affects the quality of our lives.

Often the modern medicine has not yet realized the value of working directly with the respiratory system in the treatment of respiratory symptoms. When we seek medical help for respiratory condition, we are usually just given inhalers and drugs indefinitely to treat the symptoms, often with no hope of actually addressing the cause to relieve the problem permanently. People with respiratory problems usually have lifelong history of issues around breathing. In other words, not only that the breathing is shut down, they also tend to have deep-seated negative beliefs and feelings that are directly related to the function of breathing itself.

Many people suffer a short-breathing-pattern, which can caused of hypoventilation or hyperventilation. This habit brings illness health, long term health problem such as obesity, sleep apnea, anxiety, etc. Even asthmatic breathing pattern simply describe as a continuous tightening of the muscles directly below the breastbone (sternum), this constriction prohibit the full release of the breath. Most of the problems are caused by unexpressed feelings that has inhibited the body.

Healing Breath practice slow and deep continues breathing which allows the emotional release happens throughout the body. Carry away the trauma and sickness on the physical body, living a relaxed and relieve feelings both on the body and mental state. Continuous practice of the Healing Breath helps to encourage a meditative state of mind to engage in everyday life. This way we all may experience our daily life mindfully and allow us to live in the present moment.

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