Understanding Trauma (Part 2)

In the first stage of the golden age (0 – 7 years old) a human child learn about the expansion if the physical and material expression. In this reality a human child must have fulfilled the feeling and emotion of satisfaction and security in order to be able to continue his journey to the next level of expansion.

The next level of growth happens during the two stages during age 7 – 14 years old and continue from 14 – 21 years old. In this year of life a human child learn the expansion of their mental expression. The mental expression needs a longer time to be developed as it needs a lot of things to adapt and re-arranges for an understanding can be met, and therefore wisdom can be fulfilled.

During these two stages of golden age, a child learn about the expression of love and kindness, also the expression of rejection and dislike. Furthermore, a child learn about their self-value which indicate by the way they treat others. The way they respect others, indicate how much they respect themselves. Even though, in this stage a child is still learning of “what respect means”, but they already have instinct from what they have learned in the previous stage.

This chain of growth cannot be separated.

Mostly, adults who has trauma disorder or stress disorder is caused by some phenomena that was happening during these golden ages.

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Understanding Trauma (Part 1)

Trauma is not what is happening to us, but instead it is the effect of what have left within us.

It is not the event when the pain was created that makes trauma, but instead it is the emotion and feelings that was left behind after that specific painful experience that makes problem of trauma. This is the reason why most of the medical study of trauma is called this case as “Post Trauma and Stress Disorder (PTSD)”

Trauma is being created when a pure soul must face terrifying truth of phenomena without knowing the way out or single solution of the problem he face. Thus, mostly the tragedy that create the effect of trauma is being created when a human child live in between age 0 – 25 years old.

During this age, a human child is still learning and trying to figure out their purpose of life. And yet, when this idea is being interfere with any idea of morality, culture or religion, then the wisdom and knowledge has become impure and toxic. When a human child is learning about their life, they must be provided a space of freedom to express their desire and will. In order for them to know themselves and their goal in life.

The golden age of growth always turn every 7 years of a human life. A human child will learn a significant knowledge and wisdom they will understand in every turning 7 years. On the first turning, a human child learn about the first stage of safety. In this level they must understand the meaning and the feeling of being saved and secure. This will help them to grow to a further exploration.

From age 1 up to age 7 years of a human child, the care taker must provide a safe, secure environment where a child can express their feeling without restriction nor limitation. They might need guidance, however the guidance must be given in a way that they can understand or they can learn to understand, not being forced.

If restriction happen during this age, the first stage of trauma is being create: which is the trauma of security. The child will grow older without knowing what security means. And they must at all time, longer time, finding out for themselves “what does it mean to be saved and secured?” This is as same as living life in nightmare, where we must face our ghost every single time.

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Our Breath and Our Emotions

When we have our breath, nobody can steal our peace.

Our breath has a very close relationship with our emotions and feelings. Imagine when we are happy, our breath feels more relieving. But, when we are scared, our breath become interrupted and even stopped. Also when we are sad or crying, our breath cannot flow freely, it feels restricted and difficult to breath.

Our emotions influences the way we breathe as well. When the emotion is fluctuated, often we (directly) hold our breath. When we are surprised, often also we hold our breath. But, when we are relaxed and not under pressure, our breath become free and comfortable. This is how we can see directly and tangibly of the relationship of our breath and our emotion and feelings.

Why does the breath and the emotion have such close relationship?

Technically, from the beginning of the creation. The first cell that is created before the body is created, are the cell of our brain. Which is part of the brain that we called as Limbic System. Limbic system of the brain is the first part that is being created when we live as an embryo. This Limbic system later on create many parts such as hypothalamus, thalamus, amygdala and pituitary gland. This Limbic system is working throughout all process of memories during the lifetime of the cells.

Even when part of the body is not yet perfect, the Limbic system has recorded all of the knowledge from the experiences and founding that is being learned by the senses of the cells. This recording are being made as “feelings”. Therefore the communication form of feelings are the very basic communication of all cells. Even when it is a simple ones.

As the embryo grows, the organs also growing. Inside the womb we are not yet using our respiratory system to breath. We are breathing with our mother. At this moment, our brain also learn throughout all feelings and emotions that is being represented by our caretaker. And finally, when the day we born we start to lean our first breath.

As a baby, we cannot operate our body as its function. We still lean how to move our fingers and toes. What we can do is only breath and use our senses through the language of feelings. Therefore the first and most significant source of knowledge that we learn in this life is: (1) Our Breathing and (2) Our Feelings. As we haven’t yet be able to use words to express our feelings. We use instead our breathing and emotions to express our desire.

The two language of breath and feelings are the language that we use from the beginning of this life as a human being, therefore these two language have very close relationship to each other to support the expression of our physical body.

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Breathing Pattern

What does “breathing pattern” means? Breathing pattern is a systematic rhythm of breath that is being created by our nervous system and our brain to regulate the respiratory system in the “normal” state for day to day life.

This rhythm of breath changes every time and every moment. Based on the situations and conditions that is being presented to the body. For example, when we feel relaxed, our breathing become slow, soft and long. However, when we are faced with some busy tasks or job, our breathing become fast and short. And when we are faced with some shocking condition or phenomena, our breathing stops for little moment. This rhythm is very normal and happens all the time to us. And mostly, we have similar breathing pattern to each other.

The differences of the pattern can be made caused of different life style. For example, when we have busy life style, where everything must be fast, our breath become fast and short. However, when our life style is slow and relaxing, our breathing become longer, softer and it is easier for you to feel your breath. Location where we live also define our breathing rhythm, for example when we live in big cities, full of dust and pollution, our breath become short and restricted. However, when we live in small village, close to nature and surrounded by trees, our breath become longer and freer.

Now the real question is: Do we know what is the quality of our breathing pattern?

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